Building AttractionFemale Psychology

What Women Really Want in a Man


Have you ever heard a woman say she doesn’t know why she’s attracted to a certain guy, or why she ends up with all the wrong types of men? If you’ve spoken to more than a few women in your life I’m sure you’ve heard this.

The interesting thing about women is what they say they want and what actually attracts them are two very different things.

So why is that? First off, women are biologically programmed to become attracted to specific traits in a man. They’re designed to find the best man they possibly can — this is also known as female hypergamy.

One of the reasons jerks get women is because they portray several important attraction building qualities. They have a strong frame, they’re decisive and they have an irresistible confidence that women are biologically drawn to. Despite the fact that they’re jerks, women will stay with guys like this, or leave one just to end up with another.

Now comes the rational mind. All women rationally want a “nice guy.” This is the guy that treats them well, he can be introduced to their parents, he has a good job and he will be a good father. Unfortunately however, the “nice guy” often doesn’t attract them on the emotional level. He’s usually the guy that gets “friend zoned,” or cheated on the night before the wedding. The emotional mind trumps the rational mind almost every single time.

Ultimately women want a man who possesses both qualities. She wants a true Alpha male. This is a man who respects her enough to consider her his equal, but strong enough to make her feel protected and safe. He is confident, decisive, caring, ambitious, funny and he can lead her to where she wants to be led. She may not necessarily want him to take care of her, but she finds comfort in the option.

Being Alpha means uncovering the natural self-esteem that resides within you. It means you attract women not with manipulation, but by the virtue of your composure, by revealing the “real you” or “best you” without fear of rejection, nor attachment to results.

This state of being resides within every man alive; all it needs is a little cultivation. With the right action anyone can become the epitome of what women really want in a man.

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Mark Sing

Mark Sing

Mark Sing is a world-renowned NLP dating coach and the founder of Alpha Symposium. Mark specializes in 1 on 1 coaching where he uses NLP to re-wire the metaprogramming in his client's heads in conjunction with tactical teaching about attracting women. Mark firmly believes that all men deserve sexual choice, and he created Alpha Symposium to share his passion with men who want to take their lives to the next level.