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How to Write a First Text that Always Gets a Response


I don’t know about you, but talking on the phone sucks. You have to think of things to say, and you have to carry the conversation. It’s like doing an important interview blindfolded. Fortunately, the good people at the cellular companies have brought us a genius alternative—and that’s texting.

Your first text is the most critical text you’ll ever send a woman, so it has to do several things. First of all, it must make her laugh. Second, it has to be in reference to something you and she spoke about during your initial conversation. Lastly, it should be an interactive type statement that allows her a fun reply.

With all those conditions in hand, here’s a text you might initially send a woman:

Let’s say a few days ago you met a girl who’s in college. Using one of the lines from our book The Conversation Sniper you say: “Oh really, what’s it like studying to become an ice cream man? Are the courses hard?”

Having made her laugh this could be something you reference again in your first text.

Keep It Open-Ended

You could text her something like: “I saw on the news that you hijacked an ice cream truck from your college. The police are here and they want a list of your demands…”
Having referenced back to the initial conversation she’ll know who you are without you having to say it. Having made her laugh you’ll instil motivation for her to reply. Finally, having structured the text as an open-ended question you’re giving her the important opportunity to have fun with her response.

Once she replies and the conversation ramps up you’ll be like a chess player thinking five steps ahead and leading her where you want the conversation to go.

There’s Always A Great Plan B

And if you don’t have anything clever to say, try this one:

“Mark to Kelly, Come in Kelly, KSH, over…” (like walkie talkies) That one has a 90% reply rate.

This covers the surface of all the great opportunities available through texting.

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Mark Sing

Mark Sing

Mark Sing is a world-renowned NLP dating coach and the founder of Alpha Symposium. Mark specializes in 1 on 1 coaching where he uses NLP to re-wire the metaprogramming in his client's heads in conjunction with tactical teaching about attracting women. Mark firmly believes that all men deserve sexual choice, and he created Alpha Symposium to share his passion with men who want to take their lives to the next level.